“The key is not to prioritize what's on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.”
Stephen R. Covey
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This is a great quote by the original author of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens, you need to organize all your thoughts before you can decide which ones are the most important.
Wednesday 1 June 2011
Synergize Quote
"Coming together is a beginning. Keeping together is progress. Working together is success.”
Henry Ford
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I love this quote because it is true. You need to work together for it to truly be a success, not just sit in each others presence. You need to share ideas and think as a group for it to work.
Henry Ford
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I love this quote because it is true. You need to work together for it to truly be a success, not just sit in each others presence. You need to share ideas and think as a group for it to work.
Sharpen the Saw Representation
Taking time out of your life to relax, whether it be sleeping, going to the gym, or going to the spa, it is something that is extremely necessary, I certainly feel so, otherwise you will not be able to function at the highest level you wish to.
Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood Representation
I feel like this picture is a good representation of Seeking First to Understand then to be Understood because a good way to show that you are listening to someone and understanding what they are saying is to repeat - or mirror - what they are saying.
Begin With the End in Mind Tips
How to Reach Your Goals
Experts describe strategies for setting goals -- and making sure you achieve them.
Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD
We all have goals. What are yours? To lose 20 pounds? Get in shape? Buy a new house? Make more money? Having a goal is the easy part. Reaching it? Well, that's something else entirely. If you're frustrated because you feel like you keep coming up short when it comes to realizing your dreams, maybe it's time to try a different approach.
When setting a goal, ask yourself first of all if your goals are realistic and if you are really ready to make the changes in your life necessary to reach those goals.
"Most people don't take into consideration whether they're ready to do what it takes to achieve their goals," says Steven Rosenberg, PhD. Rosenberg is a behavior therapist, the team psychotherapist for the Philadelphia Flyers hockey team, and author of I Hope the Hell I WIN! Turning Hope into Reality…How Winners Win! If you're going through a stressful time at work, for example, this may not be the best time to start a weight loss program; maybe you'd do better to wait a few months and start on, say, your birthday.
Be realistic as well, says Rosenberg. You can't lose 40 pounds in two weeks, or even a month. Set an achievable objective, such as 1 to 2 pounds a week; by the end of the year, you will have lost the 40 pounds.
Be Committed
"Goals that get reached are those that are firm, well-defined, and to which the individual is truly and completely committed," says Susan Schachterle, director of the Denver-based Ahimsa Group, which provides consulting and coaching services to individuals and organizations worldwide. "Without that commitment, trying to reach goals is like grabbing Jell-O -- you think maybe you have it, but there's really nothing to hang on to."Schachterle suggests that you check your commitment. Ask yourself why you want to achieve that particular goal. What will that do for you? Why is it important? What will your life be like when you have reached it? How will achieving your goal change things for you?
"If you're having trouble making a strong commitment," says Schachterle, "make sure it's the right goal and the right time for you."
The Art of Saying 'No'
Another reason many people don't reach their goals is that they just can't say no -- to everyone else. "Many of us, especially women, put other things and people first," says Susan Newman, PhD, a social psychologist at Rutgers University and author of The Book of NO: 250 Ways to Say It-and Mean It and Stop People-Pleasing Forever. We're unable to refuse when asked for our time, our talent, our expertise, or merely our presence."Saying yes is a habit we're not even aware of," says Newman. "Think 'no' before you think 'yes' (not the other way around). By adding the word 'no' to your vocabulary, you open up vistas of time, not only to work toward a goal but also to think about how to reach it," Newman says. "In short, you put boundaries in place and establish priorities in the correct order [for you]."
If you haven't mastered the art of saying "no" and you think that's derailing your efforts to reach your goals, Newman suggests taking these steps:
- Make a list of how many times a day you say 'yes.' "You'll be startled," says Newman.
- Pay attention to how you parcel out your time. "For most of us, it just disappears. … Who's monopolizing the time you could otherwise spend on reaching your goals?"
- Set priorities. Who has first dibs on you and your time?
- Look at your limitations. When do you start to lose your stamina? "Don't keep pushing until you run out of steam and collapse altogether," Newman advises.
- Let go of control. You don't have to do it all yourself. "If you're doing everything else, there's no time for you to get back to your goal."
This article seems like it would actually be wvery helpful, just like Sean Covey's 7 Habits. The ideas are very similar but also have their own, different points of views or ways of explaining things.
The "Win - Win" Game
A win-win situation, also called a win-win game or non-zero-sum game in game theory, is a situation by which cooperation, compromise, or group participation leads to all participants benefiting. The term can be applied to many aspects of daily living, and it is contrasted to the zero-sum game or win-lose situation, where the dominant factor is that at least one person wins while another loses. These are also called zero-sum games and examples include most two-person board games. For instance a chess game is zero-sum. One winner, +1, is added to one loser, -1, resulting in a total of zero.
The win-win situation is different, since its total according to game theory could be two or more. In a two-person scenario, where both people could cooperate and thus benefit, this could be mathematically expressed and +1 plus +1 = 2. Instead of a situation creating a winner and a loser, both people win a roughly equivalent amount.
You can apply the term win-win situation to any small negotiations in life. A typical comparison might be compromise between a husband and wife on an issue of contention. Perhaps the couple is arguing about division of chores and childcare. The husband contends he works outside the home and should not have to take care of the house or children.
The wife contends that the amount of work inside the home and regarding childcare is just as weighty during the day. If the wife simply allows the situation to continue status quo, she is statistically the loser or -1. Some recent studies suggest that women who care for children at home work essentially an 18-20 hour day, depending upon the number and age of children. She really is the loser by this proposition, particularly when the husband refuses to help.
For the couple to create a win-win scenario, compromise and understanding of workload is needed. If studies indicate that a stay at home mom is actually working the equivalent of two and half full time jobs, then this figure needs to be fully grasped by the husband. He’s also probably got a tired and possibly cranky wife on his hands while the situation remains the same, and he may earn her resentment. But technically he is winning something, the benefit of free time, while the wife is not.
If the couple decides to compromise, and the husband helps with some chores or childcare to even the workload, the couple have created a win-win situation. Some might ask how the husband wins in this scenario. He benefits from a wife less tired, perhaps more devoted to the relationship, and certainly less resentful. The wife wins a little free time and the share of work becomes equitable.
Any situation where parties agree to act in both their own interest and in the interest of the group can be a win-win situation. In economy, this may also be referred to as the Nash Equilibrium. Any participant in a situation or game takes into account the way that his/her own decisions and choices affect all other participants. When this occurs, and when all participants develop a strategy which benefits the “whole,” a win-win situation develops. It should be stated that not everyone in every possible permutation of this scenario wins exactly the same thing or the equivalent amount.
The basis for any win-win situation is that compromise and cooperation must be more or at least as important as ego and competition. Everyone likes to “win” but the question raised to create the win-win situation is: How can a situation be established where nobody loses? It’s hard to create win-win situations when people are selfish and egotistical, and especially if they don’t care whether their personal gains result in someone else’s losses.
http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-a-win-win-situation.htm
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This game seems very confusing at first but once i read through it thoroughly i realized that it could actually be related to real life. I do not think I would ever want to play this game, but i think that it could be a good game for younger children to learn about Win-Win situations.
The win-win situation is different, since its total according to game theory could be two or more. In a two-person scenario, where both people could cooperate and thus benefit, this could be mathematically expressed and +1 plus +1 = 2. Instead of a situation creating a winner and a loser, both people win a roughly equivalent amount.
You can apply the term win-win situation to any small negotiations in life. A typical comparison might be compromise between a husband and wife on an issue of contention. Perhaps the couple is arguing about division of chores and childcare. The husband contends he works outside the home and should not have to take care of the house or children.
The wife contends that the amount of work inside the home and regarding childcare is just as weighty during the day. If the wife simply allows the situation to continue status quo, she is statistically the loser or -1. Some recent studies suggest that women who care for children at home work essentially an 18-20 hour day, depending upon the number and age of children. She really is the loser by this proposition, particularly when the husband refuses to help.
For the couple to create a win-win scenario, compromise and understanding of workload is needed. If studies indicate that a stay at home mom is actually working the equivalent of two and half full time jobs, then this figure needs to be fully grasped by the husband. He’s also probably got a tired and possibly cranky wife on his hands while the situation remains the same, and he may earn her resentment. But technically he is winning something, the benefit of free time, while the wife is not.
If the couple decides to compromise, and the husband helps with some chores or childcare to even the workload, the couple have created a win-win situation. Some might ask how the husband wins in this scenario. He benefits from a wife less tired, perhaps more devoted to the relationship, and certainly less resentful. The wife wins a little free time and the share of work becomes equitable.
Any situation where parties agree to act in both their own interest and in the interest of the group can be a win-win situation. In economy, this may also be referred to as the Nash Equilibrium. Any participant in a situation or game takes into account the way that his/her own decisions and choices affect all other participants. When this occurs, and when all participants develop a strategy which benefits the “whole,” a win-win situation develops. It should be stated that not everyone in every possible permutation of this scenario wins exactly the same thing or the equivalent amount.
The basis for any win-win situation is that compromise and cooperation must be more or at least as important as ego and competition. Everyone likes to “win” but the question raised to create the win-win situation is: How can a situation be established where nobody loses? It’s hard to create win-win situations when people are selfish and egotistical, and especially if they don’t care whether their personal gains result in someone else’s losses.
http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-a-win-win-situation.htm
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This game seems very confusing at first but once i read through it thoroughly i realized that it could actually be related to real life. I do not think I would ever want to play this game, but i think that it could be a good game for younger children to learn about Win-Win situations.
Friday 27 May 2011
Seven Habits Reflection
I liked the book because it had many anecdotes from the author and stories fromother people. It helped me to relate because alot of the stories sounded similar to things going on in my life.
I had read Sean Covey's book before but I did not retain the information. This time, when I read it I actually read and thought about the words that had been written and I took them in. I compared all of the habits to my life and I feel like I might actually make a change in my life and model after some of the seven habits.
The key idea's of the book were the seven habits; be proactive, begin with the end in mind, have a win win attitude, seek first to understand than to be understood, synergize, sharpen the saw, and put first things first.
I liked Sean Covey's style of writing because he wrote in a way that was simple and easy to read. He did not use words or phrases that were complicated and he explained things in a very clear way.
I would rate Sean Covey's "7 habits of a highly effective teen" with 3 and a half stars.
I had read Sean Covey's book before but I did not retain the information. This time, when I read it I actually read and thought about the words that had been written and I took them in. I compared all of the habits to my life and I feel like I might actually make a change in my life and model after some of the seven habits.
The key idea's of the book were the seven habits; be proactive, begin with the end in mind, have a win win attitude, seek first to understand than to be understood, synergize, sharpen the saw, and put first things first.
I liked Sean Covey's style of writing because he wrote in a way that was simple and easy to read. He did not use words or phrases that were complicated and he explained things in a very clear way.
I would rate Sean Covey's "7 habits of a highly effective teen" with 3 and a half stars.
Friday 20 May 2011
Blog Entry # 4 - Synergize
The last of Sean Covey's Habits that I use in my everyday life is "Synergize". I use synergize by working well with others in my everyday life. Sometimes I find it hard to keep my pateince with certain people, but I try to be open-minded and find new and better ways to do everyday activities, by taking cues from the people around me. I am a very understanding person, and I accept everyone for who they are no matter their race, gender, age or beliefs.
Monday 16 May 2011
Blog Entry #3 - Seek First to Understand and Then to be Understood
The purpose of Covey's 5th Habit, "Seek First to Understand and Then to be Understood" is to hear what people are thinking and process it before you try to interject your opinion or interupt their thought process by putting in your own. I try to use this habit in my everyday life, to let people speak their minds and I listen completely and give feedback. Then once they are done, and I have responded to what they said, I give my opinion, to be respectful.
Blog Entry #2 - Begin with the End in Mind
My strengths include being able to think ahead, at the final product that i want to achieve. Sean Covey calls it "Begin with the End in Mind". Just like being proactive, I like to be prepared. I have a tendency of almost working backward. I think of what I want my final product to look like and from there I branch off into each section that will help me achieve that final product.
Blog #1 - Be Pro-Active
The principles I live by are; be respectful of your elders, treat others the way you would want to be treated, and to have goals that you set for yourself ahead of time, organize yourself and then go to do it. This last principle that I live by is also one of Sean Covey's 7 Habits; Be Proactive. I am the kind of person who likes to know what I am going to do ahead of time, to be organized.
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